From the previous chapters it is absolutely clear that colds (acute respiratory infections, ARVI), sore throat, chronic rhinitis, tonsillitis, pharyngitis and bronchitis are diseases that are often accompanied by many complications: problems with the heart, kidneys, joints, nervous system, etc. But, Unfortunately, due to the low qualifications of doctors (lack of proper knowledge, professionalism, interest, desire, etc.), it is often difficult to determine this relationship. To be honest, no one is even trying to do this. But for effective treatment it is very important to correctly establish the cause of a particular disease...
About seven years ago, when my frequent colds, chronic rhinitis, tonsillitis, pharyngitis and bronchitis were already “bothering” me, I also periodically began to notice unpleasant disruptions in the functioning of my heart. This was mainly expressed in tachycardia - rapid heartbeat, arrhythmia - interruptions in rhythm, pain in the heart, a feeling of stopping (fading) the heartbeat, shortness of breath. Despite the fact that at that time I was only 18 years old - an age that implies irrepressible energy, strength and health...
At first, I did not pay much attention to disturbances in the functioning of the heart, considering them only temporary inconveniences... But the years passed and the more time passed, the more often the heart “made itself felt” - the symptoms described above not only did not decrease, but, on the contrary, became acquire a more serious form and a permanent character! Naturally, then it was hard for me to believe that colds and inflammatory processes in the nasal cavity, mouth and lungs could cause such heart problems...
...I tried to communicate on this topic with different ENT doctors, but in response I received only unintelligible answers, and most often I just heard popular phrases like: “This is not within our competence, you need to consult a cardiologist”... As a result, I had no choice other than going to see a cardiologist (heart disease doctor)…
The cardiologist also “cut off” any connection between diseases of the ENT organs and the heart... And prescribed me a full examination: ECG (cardiogram), echocardiography, electrocardiography, Holter monitoring, chest x-ray, etc. Those who have heart problems are in the know , what kind of incomprehensible terms are these, but that’s not about that now... As a result of the examination, it turned out that I have some abnormalities in the functioning of the heart, which at that time were in the initial stage of development... And that if no action is taken, then over time they will quite capable of developing into more serious problems, even heart failure! The cardiologist prescribed me a list of heart medications that need to be taken and recommended periodically (twice a year) to undergo a complete heart examination...
I left the diagnostic center completely devastated - literally and figuratively... Firstly, I again spent a good part of my savings on the examination, and secondly, I again felt like some old grandfather who was once again informed about the presence of new diseases and were “severely punished” to comply with the regime, using a dozen incomprehensible medications...
On my kitchen table at home, there were already huge quantities of medicines aimed at combating colds, inflammations of the nose, throat and lungs... And now, on top of everything, “heart pills” appeared. Naturally, this fact did not add optimism to me...
For six months I honestly took the prescribed medications and hoped that it would bring positive results... But in reality, it turned out the way it usually happens: some pretend that they are treating, while others only think that they are being treated... It was absolutely obvious that the prescribed medications are capable of eliminating only symptoms (rapid heartbeat, irregular heart rhythm, shortness of breath, etc.) and then only do it temporarily! They did not influence the causes that caused these disorders...
I decided to stop “eating” on prescribed heart medications, relying only on getting rid of my constant colds, chronic rhinitis, tonsillitis, pharyngitis and bronchitis... Intuitively , I became more and more confident in my assumption that disturbances in the functioning of the heart are directly related to the already existing diseases... And I was not mistaken!
After I finally got rid of problems with colds, nose, throat and lungs, the tachycardia and arrhythmia disappeared almost immediately, and the pain in the heart area, the feeling of stopping (fading) the heartbeat, and shortness of breath stopped bothering me. Moreover, just in case, I once again underwent an examination at the cardiology department to make 100% sure that there were no abnormalities in the functioning of the heart...
...And this time, what came out of the diagnostic center was not that “old man” as before, but a healthy, self-confident young guy, absolutely free – independent of doctors, with only one thought spinning in his head: “I did it” ! The examination showed that no abnormalities in the functioning of the heart were detected...
There is always a cause and there is a consequence... And the effectiveness of treatment directly depends on the correct identification of such a connection! We should not forget that each person is individual: often no one except ourselves is able to recognize one or another connection between diseases, so you must always listen to your body. IMPORTANT Do not confuse “where the legs grow from” in the disease in reality.
If we speak in the dry language of facts, then the leg is a paired organ of support and movement of a person, a part of the lower limb located distal (further from the center) of the hip joint. It’s boring, I thought, looking lovingly at my limbs))). Perhaps the main function of the legs is to move our body in space, but the process of movement should first of all be pleasing to the galas of those around us!
There are a lot of criteria for assessing women's legs. Apparently legs really have great aesthetic significance, since someone came up with a bunch of signs of their ideality. The most common is the “Law of Four Windows”. It says that a woman's legs should form four windows - between the toes and ankle, above the ankle, below the knee, and also above the knee at the bottom of the thigh. Moreover, the last gap should be the narrowest.
In addition, there are many more criteria for “ideal” legs. A perfect ankle should be “thin, but not skinny” - I still don’t understand where the boundary between these concepts is)))) On the reverse side, the knee “should have a curve” - I almost twisted my neck, trying to look, but there was “growth” I never found it behind the knee)))). And the front of the knee should resemble "a baby's face with bangs, cheeks, dimples and chin." well, if I have some imagination, I’ll look at anything on my knees - even Gioconda))).
The ancient sculptor Polyclitus believed that the circumference of the lower leg should be equal to the circumference of the neck, and the circumference of the thigh should be one and a half times larger. The distance from the heels to the waist must be related to the length of the body as 2:3. It was with the help of such calculations that ancient statues were created. I couldn’t keep up with the measurements and got lost in the meter)
And in general, imagine a man who will evaluate women's legs in this way - crawling around you with a ruler. Introduced? Did you laugh? It’s good that men’s requirements in terms of legs are extremely simple - long, straight, well-groomed.
By the way, if it is believed that long women’s legs are a sign of sexuality, then long men’s legs are not good. Men with long legs are not perceived as serious partners. The ideal ratio between leg length and torso length (from neck to crotch) for women is 1.4:1, and for men - 1:1. The fact is that a long torso in men visually seems wider and more voluminous and creates the impression of masculine reliability 😉
Not without calculations, where would we be without them. All kinds of researchers have calculated the ideal leg length:
▪ height 161-167 cm – leg length 84-89 cm – hip circumference 56-57 cm – calf circumference 34-35 cm;
▪ height 168-174 cm – leg length 90-94 cm – hip circumference 57-58 cm – calf circumference 35-36 cm;
▪ height 175-180 cm – leg length 95-100 cm – thigh circumference 58-59, shin circumference 37-38.
In addition, there is a separate classification of the slimness and curvature of the legs. They come in the following varieties:
▪ slender, that is, the centers of the femoral head, knee joint and foot are on the same line.
▪ with O-shaped curvature, when the bones of the legs are deformed and the legs look like a “wheel”.
▪ with X-shaped curvature – the bones are curved so that when the hips are closed, the ankles diverge to the sides.
▪ with false curvature. This is when there is no curvature or deformation of the bones, but the soft tissues are distributed in such a way that the illusion of uneven legs is created.
If you discover any of these shortcomings in yourself, do not despair. Most of them are little things that can be corrected with the right clothes and shoes. In addition, jogging or tennis and step classes help ensure that by “building up” the muscle definition, you will visually make them slimmer.
By the way, you can lengthen your legs not only with the help of the Ilizarov apparatus, but also by practicing kickboxing, ballet and rock and roll. And not so painful)))))
As scientists say, feet are like fingerprints; no two are alike in the world. rejoice, girls, each of us has a unique pair of legs))) In world standards, the first place in leg length belongs to Africans, second to Swedes (but Swedish women’s legs are not so graceful). But residents of the Mediterranean and oriental beauties are in last place in the world rankings - their legs are not so long, and their ankles are less graceful (((.
Adriana Sklenarikova has the longest legs in the world of supermodels - 121.5 cm.
However, leg length is not the most important indicator in the world of beauty. So, for example, Tina Turner’s legs are insured for $8 million, although she doesn’t have them “from the ears,” they are nevertheless slender and toned.
Speaking roughly and roughly, I most often write about how to treat children. I am writing because I really want there to be more happy children in this World. I am writing because I consider the role of Mom to be the most important role of a Woman in this life. I write because I am constantly working on myself and looking for what is true and what is not. In general, the list goes on.
And, based on this list, you can very easily understand that I take children as the very central, pre-central center of my life. But that's not true. And this is exactly what I want to talk about today.
Why do we think the way we think?
Why do we speak the way we speak?
Why do we do what we do and do the things we do?
Each of us has guidelines in life. Of what is right and how it is right. It is these guidelines that determine our behavior. It is thanks to them (or because of them) that we look at the same situation from different angles. And we not only look, but also react, perceive what is happening and act differently.
S. Covey calls this the center. In my opinion, this is a brilliant definition. The center is the essence. The thing around which everything else is built. The core, which is overgrown with meat. So what could be there, in this center?
Have you met people who exude calm and confidence? No, they don’t show it by sight. They don't demonstrate. And certainly not on display. They radiate. Calm. Confidence. In any situation. Difficult and unbearable. In a ridiculous and awkward way.
Sometimes we call them "strong". And very often we reach out to them. Because it feels somehow good and cozy to be around them. And for a while it also becomes calm. It’s something that’s in the air that you can’t grab by the tail and capture in a photo. But no one doubts that this exists.
I always thought that this is how self-confidence manifests itself. Now it is completely obvious to me that self-confidence is just a consequence. What?
What is at their center. And there... values. Their true and unshakable postulates. Important and significant principles that they accepted for themselves as the only true and possible ones.
Once, having determined for himself what his values are, a person checks them in all his actions, like a compass. Is it going in the right direction? Are his actions consistent with his values?
It seems so simple. BUT.
Why, even though we know our values, do we not behave in accordance with them?
For example, who in this virtual room will say that being a good mother is not a value?
So why, considering our beloved kids the most important thing in our lives, do we yell at them, hit them, force them to play with educational toys when they don’t need it, laugh at their values, ignore basic needs and move away from them as are they growing? Because…
…we put children at our center. But this is absolutely forbidden to do. Just think about it. As soon as we start putting children first, we become dependent on their behavior. It is children who become the prism through which we perceive this world. It is children who become the center on which EVERYTHING depends.
That is, we become defenseless against any changes or critical situations that are associated with our children. As soon as children do not behave the way we want, they deviate from the path we have chosen for them, the model of behavior, the circle of interests, substitute our own version of _____, we become helpless.
As soon as the foundation of the house “creeped”, the whole house became warped. As soon as something goes wrong in the “CHILDREN” center, everything around that comes from this center collapses and breaks.
While everything is fine, we may not notice it. But as soon as something difficult, unusual or critical happens, we begin to behave inappropriately. Or we don’t know how to behave at all. We do at least something, act as is customary or as our parents did in such situations. Even if we, then still children, were extremely offended by these actions.
Question: where will we, parents, in this situation, get the energy and inner freedom to raise happy children? Where will the core come from in us to be our children’s hope and support? If we are tossed back and forth like a weather vane, at the slightest change in the wind, the behavior of our little ones.
In general, by putting children above all else, we destroy with our own hands what healthy upbringing is based on. This is such a paradox.
My value is to raise a healthy, sensitive, happy baby.
Situation: My two-year-old child threw sand at another in the sandbox.
I will start to get nervous - the situation is so uncomfortable. I will be ashamed of the child. I will scold him in public, shame him - for everyone to see. (Oh, how scary it sounds. But in fact, it’s a common thing for a sandbox):
- Well, aren’t you ashamed? You hurt another baby! Oh, what a bad/boy girl!
/Why am I doing this? - I am lost. My child does not behave the way I expect or want him to. Not in the way that seems right to me and not in the way I teach him. I think about what others will think.
What am I doing? “I’m humiliating my baby.” In public. Thus, accustoming him to the fact that he can be humiliated./
Internally I will remain calm. Because I am not guided by momentary impulses. Because I act consciously. Because when performing this or that action, I check with my compass - with my values.
“I’ll run up to the other kid and ask how he is.” I will sincerely worry about whether his eyes hurt now. I'll apologize to him. And I will call my baby to apologize.
/Why am I doing this? – Because humiliation of my baby is not among my values. Because I'm worried about the other child. For his health and well-being. What am I doing? – I teach my child empathy. By your own example. I show that this was very dangerous, broadcasting that this should not be done. I show you how to behave if you did something bad./
Then, perhaps, at home, I will talk to my child about this incident. But not in an instructive and instructive way, but carefully. Quite possibly in the game. To understand what the kid himself learned from this.
This is my example and my actions. I will emphasize. This is how my behavior changes, depending on what is in my center. And in order to describe it to you, I spent some time drawing this situation in my imagination. And understand what I will do after all.
Your behavior and words in the same situation may be very different from mine. But no less, or even more, they will differ from your own if you change your center.
It's not just children who can be at the center. What if, for example, there is a husband? Then any situation that goes beyond our comfort - even the most banal quarrel - makes us unhappy. The most striking example of a failure for me personally, in my own relationships, is the hatred of my husband that appears during a quarrel. Feeling of alienation. You have? - All. A sure sign. There's something wrong with your center.
Your center may be money or material values, friends or parents, work or pleasure. Anything at all. A center can consist of several centers at once. And then we rush back and forth. And everywhere we are defenseless. And everywhere we cannot control anything. And every little thing knocks you out of the saddle.
A child fighting on the playground is a nightmare, what a person!
My husband comes home from work late, angry and hungry - a nightmare, what a man!
The boss at work doesn’t see how hard I work – it’s a nightmare, what a person!
That's it, I'm depressed, I'm going to hang myself.
Moreover, depression is not far-fetched. Real. But it is not the child, not the husband, or the boss who is to blame for its occurrence. But only ourselves.
In fact, this topic, which I tried to fit into the framework of this article, is very complex. And it’s very difficult to understand what your center is. And it’s even more difficult to break your habits and stereotypes. Learn to think differently. But I'm sure it's worth it.
One day in every family, one way or another, the question of Faith arises. Question of Religion. And everyone solves it in their own way.
Sometimes I forget that there is a little girl inside of me. And when I stop paying attention to her and, most importantly, amusing her, immediately, out of nowhere, an evil old woman appears.
Parents must earn authority through their behavior. And the child simply must feel, in principle, that his parents are an authority for him.
Without knowing it, we often demonstrate our complexes, weaknesses and fears to the people around us. Moreover, we do this completely unconsciously. What distinguishes a complex person in a conversation in the first few seconds of communication? Is it possible to calculate it from online comments? The answer is yes.
Do you know what complexes are? This is when concentration on some detail of one’s own, concern about it outgrows all normal limits. For example, a woman with size 46 clothes considers herself so fat that it seems to her that everyone is turning around after her. A person constantly experiences anxiety about his peculiarity; it seems to him that the people around him are also interested in it. But, apart from a couple of rare exceptions, this is not the case.
Today, while I was running errands and shopping, I saw at least several thousand people. But I cannot describe any of them, except for those whom I meet all the time. I didn’t remember their height, nor their weight, nor the color of their eyes, nor the shape of their ears, nor the hump on their nose. I am completely indifferent to other people's butts, ears, triceps, calves and eyebrow shape. I don’t care how much they earn, how much they eat, how old they were when they got married, or what education they have. There is too little time in my day to pay attention to such little things. This is exactly how things are for most people.
We are only interesting to our spouses, a couple of girlfriends and our mother. Other people will forget about us in five seconds. They all don't care about us.
However, there are some people who really show genuine interest in us. Sometimes these are our future friends or lovers. But most often the interest of strangers is aimed at spitting poison at us.
Some reward us with critical comments regularly, and this is where it’s worth thinking - why?
Why is that stranger woman or that elderly man so interested in my lips, hands, butts, salary and who I spent the night with? Why do they care and how can I influence their quality of life? Obviously, no way! The only explanation for this behavior is complexes.
Insecure people constantly compare themselves to others, trying to confirm their normality, which is why we come into their attention. Some detail of our image is a detonator that explodes the activation mechanism of the complex. And the complex comes out with all its destructive power.
I once worked with a man at the end of his virility; he was about 70 years old. Every day this man was concerned about my fuckability. He threatened me that they wouldn’t fuck me anymore if I ate this bun, didn’t start stretching, didn’t do a beautiful hairstyle. My sex life and my fuckability interested him so much that I inadvertently thought - was he afraid for his potency? This is how our deepest fears come to light.
This is especially noticeable to me because I can analyze hundreds of thousands of angry comments from a wide variety of people. And I followed the pattern. The ugly ones criticize someone else's appearance. The poor discuss other people's salaries. They shout about female asexuality, fat and old age, men at the stage of withering libido. Focused on education - dumb. Based on the number of children - those who have no other achievements... Fat people are scolded - those who are losing weight and on diets, as well as those who themselves are prone to being overweight... There are no exceptions.
The exception is people who were so crippled in childhood that they remade themselves almost completely. However, this exception only confirms the rule. And smart people have long noticed this pattern.
Therefore, every time you open your mouth to utter another nasty thing, you demonstrate nothing but your own complexes. You stand naked in front of those around you, to whom all your secret fears become accessible and visible. Believe me, it is very noticeable.
I recently saw discussions on this topic. The girl Sonya, who has an ideal figure, asks in bewilderment why Russian people, unlike foreigners, are so fond of criticizing someone else’s appearance or emphasizing their superiority by comparing it with someone else’s failure? The answer lies in our upbringing.
Unfortunately, our children are often literally deformed. Have you ever seen this picture: a girl walks, let’s say, slouching, and her mother demonstratively hits her on the back. The girl became overweight during her teenage years, and her mother, out of good intentions, tells her that with such an ass they won’t marry her? The boy is scared out of his mind, and his father also beats him with a belt for being afraid? This happens all the time. Not to mention those cases when we are compared to our neighbor Kolya, cousin Vasya or classmate Pasha.
It is this behavior of parents that creates the basis for the formation of complexes. Why are complexes dangerous? They make us spend most of our lives thinking about things that are not important to anyone but ourselves.
Have you noticed how in Russia they love photo selections from American and European stores, when they photograph walking freaks? Comparison makes us feel more important, more beautiful, smarter, better. Because there is no self-confidence in this. And self-confidence leads to success faster than imaginary ideality.
Would you like me to tell you the story of one girl with a very big ass? Why bother, her butt is maybe one and a half meters in girth, she’s so huge. It is impossible for a girl to lose weight - everything else about her is thin. And guess what? She didn’t hide under the bed, but opened Instagram and profitably sold her physical disability. Access to her Instagram costs 12 bucks. In the photo on Instagram, she is hugged by a young man in love. And here she is...
Moreover, I worked with a woman who had such an ass not somewhere in the Americas, but in Russia. Do you know what she did? She wore bright clothes, long hair, painted her lips with red lipstick and only managed to drive away the men. And she never, never exuded venom about someone else's appearance.
The absence of complexes allows you to play any disadvantage as a trump card, making lemonade out of a lemon.
The presence of complexes makes life unbearable and disgusts others.
Do you know what advice Oksana Robski, who repeatedly married the rich and famous, gave to the girls? Do you know how she advised to attract a successful millionaire? You need to praise all the girls who are more beautiful than you. A little dress with long straight legs comes towards me. Others will say - wow, she’s dressed ugly and her face is old. And you say - oh, what a girl! Just look at those legs! And, guess what? A successful man will most likely take the bait. Not at her. On you. The absence of complexes is very attractive.
It is easy to distinguish a complex person - he clings to the shortcomings of others. And as for me, it’s much more effective to exude confidence. Praise others. Praise everything you like about others. Focus on the positive and then the positive will focus on you
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Scientists may have uncovered the mystery behind the evolution of human hands, which once evolved enough to make and use stone tools.
A group of scientists writing in the journal Evolution reported that changes in our hands and fingers were a side effect of changes in the shape of human feet.
All this, according to them, suggests that the appearance of stone tools was directly related to the ability of a person to stand and move on two limbs.
Scientists used a mathematical model to reproduce the changes that occurred in human limbs.
“This takes us back to Darwin's Descent of Man,” says project leader Campbell Rolien of the University of Calgary in Canada.
According to him, it was Darwin who was one of the first to suggest that there was a connection between the technology of producing stone tools and bipedalism.
“His idea was that these were two different events that happened one after the other, and that walking on two legs freed up the hands for other purposes,” Roljen said.
In the study, Dr. Rolien and his colleagues took measurements from the palms and soles of people and chimpanzees.
The measurement results showed a strong relationship between similar parts of the palms and feet.
“If you have a long big toe, your big toe is likely to be longer than your other toes,” Dr. Rolien explained.
“One of the reasons we see a strong correlation between fingers and toes is that they develop based on the same genetic pattern, and any slight change in this pattern can simultaneously affect the hands and feet,” the researcher said.
Then, based on the collected database, scientists began to create a mathematical model that simulates evolutionary changes in the limbs.
The model, among other things, recreated the smallest details of the changes in order to track the effect they produced.
Based on a mathematical model, the researchers found that changes in the shape of the feet caused parallel changes in the shape of the palms.
Presumably, this led to the fact that our ancestors, including Neanderthals, were able to develop the manual dexterity necessary to create stone tools.
Robin Crompton, professor of anatomy at the University of Liverpool, called the study by Canadian colleagues interesting, but, in his opinion, it raises a number of questions.
“Personally, I don’t think chimpanzee arms and legs are a good model for the arms and legs of human ancestors. In this regard, the hands and feet of a lowland gorilla would be more suitable,” Crompton told the BBC.
In addition, according to the professor, it is necessary to analyze not only and not so much the size of human limbs, but the functional form and biomechanics.
His colleague, Professor Paul O'Higgins from York Medical School in Hull, expressed the opinion that the results of the study by Canadian scientists will be further developed and can be supplemented with new data.